Essencing: Look Beyond Form

Advice i gave my friend, who has a broken heart. Dagger!

There's a tool in life coaching called "essencing," if you look at the essence of what this form (person in this case) brought to you, rather then the actual form (person,) you will begin to see what you were really looking for, then you can look for when you already experience this "essence" in your current life, or where you could experience it. (remember you spot it, you already got it.) so when you find it, and you are aware that you are experiencing this "essence," and you feel it, think about it, and express gratitude for it, then, you can manifest more of it into your life. the (form) this will come in, is up to the universe. but the "essence" is whats important.

example: i really want that car (form.) what essence will it bring to my life?, you say: confidence, i'll look cool. ok well in my current life i already experience confidence when i______________, so the next time i ___________, i will notice, feel it, think about it, be grateful for it. appreciating that moment, will manifest more "confidence" into my life, which is REALLY what i was looking for. look beyond the form for answers.